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Are you ever #driventodistraction

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We love to travel and that’s both locally and overseas and often favouring ferry travel so w can take our own car when we can. On a recent road trip we were trying to guestimate our yearly road miles! Anecdotally it is believed this figure to be around 10,000 a year for us id say multiply that by at least 5 or 6. One thing I will say and I’m very proud to say is how safety conscious my husband is. It is a lot of responsibility for him opting to be the driver the vast majority of the time. I’m not ashamed to say he is the better driver.

Recently I happened upon a game by Kwik-fit which I thought was really interesting. Entitled #driventodistraction it gives you the chance to test your reaction times by answering the questions on the phone whilst concentrating on the road and looking out for the STOP sign and it records how long it takes for you to stop! Sounds easy?? I urge anybody who is on the road to give this a go, you will honestly be so surprised.

As part of their research Kwik fit found that 19% of the surveyed drivers admitted that they sometimes take calls while driving, 17% admit that they read texts off of their phone, and 12% send texts. Aside from the obvious breaking the rules of the road, clearly any of the below can serious diminish your reaction times and even worse still be the time needed to react in an emergency situation.

GPS/ Sat Nav on phones

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Many of us are guilty of using the sat navs/ GPS on our phones to help us find the location we need however using your phone to type into the map function is no different to txting etc – you still are utilising the phone and the possibility of being #driventodistraction is still there irrespective of how you are using your phone. If you need to use your sat nav feature/ gps on your phone – delegate!

Life is precious and we all owe a duty of care to our own passengers and other road users. There is no txt no call worth it. Pull over when safe or wait until you get there.

As an aside do have a nosey on the Kwik fit webpage for some further information on other safety matter like tyre wear and tear and brakes.

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Single Parent days out deals or not!

Having a family travel blog we get lots of queries via email, DM and across social media on our adventures and days out. I am very much a bargain shopper when it comes to travel and days out making use of sites like Groupon to get the best value


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One cohort of emails that I often received when I do post a deal or good offer or blog about the activity always  strikes a chord with me.  That is the disparity of prices in the deals that I share for “family” 2 +2 offers and families which comprise of a single parent. PayPlan who are a free debt advice provider have produced a very useful infographic which looks at the true cost of activities for single parent families. Ill be very honest its not something that I had ever considered before but know it really is something I will be very aware of when sharing deals.



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PayPlan have produced an infographic which shows the results of their own research into the cost of family activities comparing 2 parent plus 2 children deal when compared with the cost of two parents plus two children. The infographic is reproduced below with kind permission and the results will shock you. The family train ticket cost difference I found staggering.

Other statistics they found include; which I really I really didn’t know was that 1 in 4 families class themselves as “single parent” and a statistic which I find really upsetting is that – a third of children with a single working parent family live in poverty. I find that so sad.

The research found that most single parent families were headed by a single mother and that one in ten have used payday loans or foodbanks to get by.

There is a useful hashtag #CostOfSingleParentLiving where you share your experiences and read about other peoples.

The results of their research found that being a single parent will cost you more in every instance. I had to read that a second time to really process it. So shocking.

Unfortunately I don’t have the magic solution to how this could be rectified and while I doesn’t impact me directly I feel its important to raise awareness of this issue.

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3 Things You Need to Consider When Opting for Additional Help

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Getting older doesn’t have to mean losing control of how you wish to live your life. The prospect of nearing an age where you need assistance in your daily living routine is a scary concept, but it doesn’t have to be. Your body is your temple, and you are still in control of it, able to make your own decisions and still maintain the freedom you want (and deserve).

Choosing to move into a residential care home or get some additional help through an outside caregiver or family member can sometimes be an emotional time and a huge transition, but it could be for the best. Here are a few starting points to consider when making this decision.

Make a Checklist of The Things you Require 

Understanding where and in what capacity you need help is a vitally important step when considering your situation. You might need assistance in doing your weekly shop, or preparing meals; it could even be just to keep up with the general cleaning around the house. There are solutions to all these problems from asking friends and family to help you out, or hiring professional services if you don’t want to feel like a burden.

If you conclude that you will require a lot more help than initially thought, then it’s time to consider having long term support.

Do Your Research and Choose A Company You Can Trust 

Choosing between moving into a residential and staying in your home can be a much easier decision when you have the option of in-home care. The idea of being in your home, and having an outside caregiver come into your space can be a very comforting thought. Especially when compared to having to be moved to a residential care home and away from the household and life you have known.

It’s your right to feel safe, cared for and loved by the people you nominate to be your in-home care assistants; and companies like know that which is why they make it their priority to offer dependable and quality caregiving.

Take the time to look into different companies, and focus on ones who have glowing reviews from everyday people who have used their services. Make contact and inquiries and ensure that the company offers everything you need before you commit to anything.

Prepare Your Home for Change

If you choose to stay in your home and accept outside care, it might be a difficult adjustment in the beginning. Your home is a safe haven, a place where all the things you love are collected, and a place where you have spent many good years and happy times. Accepting that you need help might involve someone coming into your home, and this won’t always be friends and family. Having someone new come into that area in a capacity where they may need to move and clean your belongings, or spend a great deal of time in your personal space, is a huge transition that you may need to prepare yourself for.

If there are certain boundaries you wish to set – requesting the caregiver not to go into a particular room, for example, if they don’t need to – then, by all means, set them. As long as it does not interfere with the level of care you deserve, there is no reason you cannot still maintain some privacy in your home.

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Buying property in Dubai is everybody’s dream, whether it be an investor who wants good returns on his/her investments or a purchaser who wants a high life in Dubai. Like any other part of the world, to buy a property in Dubai, you need to address certain issues and fulfill some requirement. Following is the step by step guidance on those requirements:   

Eligibility Criteria

Any person can purchase a property in Dubai’s freehold areas. These include residents of Dubai and overseas nationality holders.



  • Passports 
  • Form B is required. Form B is a signed agreement from the buyer.

 A company incorporated in UAE:

  • Incorporation certificate (COA)
  • Articles of Association (AOA)
  • Memorandum of Association (MOA)
  • Resolution of Board of Directors
  • Power of Attorney
  • Form B is required. Form B is a signed agreement from the buyer 

A company incorporated Overseas:

  • Documentation is same as in case of a company incorporated in UAE, but the company incorporate overseas is required to get all these documents attested by the Embassy of UAE  
  • Form B is required. Form B is a signed agreement from the buyer  


If the property purchased exceed 1M AED by any buyer, residency visa is issued to such person by the Dubai government. All such residents are bound by immigration rules and regulations are needed to renew their visa every 6 months.


The mortgage market is booming in Dubai, as many Financial Institutions offer mortgage plans to non-resident owners. There are many types of mortgages that are available with these financial institutions, and each type has their own limits.

Taxation and Fees:

No taxes either income or otherwise are levied by the Dubai government. Only 1.5% in terms of registration fees is to be paid by the buyer. Transfer fees are required to be paid to the Developer (property Under Construction) and to Dubai Land Department (Fully Completed projects). If you are buying the property with Mortgage money, an additional 0.25% is levied on the value of loan or mortgage. If the property is fully complete, maintenance fee for services is to be paid to the seller

Need for a bank account:

To make things simple, no requirement to open a bank account by the overseas buyer has been laid by the Government. You can hire a lawyer that can make all the arrangements for money to be transferred to an account dedicated for this purpose and sail you through, smoothly. Even your presence is not required at the time the property is transferred in your name if you empower your lawyer through a power of attorney. 

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Household…….Deals, Deals, Deals

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Anybody who knows me in the “real world” or has been following the blog knows im the “Queen of the Deal” when it comes to finding cheap flights, hotels or anything holiday related in fact. Travel is one of our big passions so squeezing in as many trips as we can requires hard work and research however…….one of the things which I hadn’t been good on was what I term “household admin”. That is comparing providers, seeking out value on utilities and considering other providers. Observing the status quo was the default position.  Not this year! Ever on my quest to squeeze a little more out for the holiday fund I have turned my attention to saving money on household bills.

“The Month” 

July is “the month”. Every house I think has one – you know that month where all the utility contracts expire, the one off bills fall due, motor tax, insurance etc. We moved into our house in the month of June so consequently every July falls “the month”!!! In preparation I have been doing my homework and I was really excited too find that there already exists a  a very user friendly site that compares deals. on TV, broadband, mobile contracts and sim only deals.

Delighted to see that all the main providers available there including; Sky, BT, SSE, Vodafone and many more. There really is so much choice out there and it can be so difficult to choose when you have to be flicking back and forth on different pages having them in coherent, easy to read and follow list is incredibly handy.  Having a really quick look and taking account of our usage and preferences Virgin are offering one of the best deals out there for us at the moment. A combined TV and broadband package coming in at £29 a month. Really great value. Also what is really great about the site is that it links you straight through to the deal no messing around trying to recreate it, takes you straight there.


The numbers nerd in mine was drawn to an interesting survey which compared the average price of 1GB of data in 230 countries. Could be very handy to know for those who travel for either work or pleasure. So where do you think has the cheapest data???

  • Cheapest appears to be around the Eastern European countries
  • More expensive being North America, Africa and Western Europe.

Hovering over an individual country in the link will bring up its associated data. This includes country name, its ranking out of the 230 countries measured, its cheapest available 1GB of data, its most expensive 1GB of data, how many plans were measured to create the average, and on what day the snapshot was taken. Really interesting stuff but then again I am unashamedly a numbers geek!

Comparison website such as Cable can really help save some extra on the household bills, as the saying goes every little really does help and it makes no sense why you would pay extra for essentially the same service, particularly if like me you are the average user and don’t require all the bells and whistles some plans come with.

Using the tool it looks like I will save almost £200 by changing my provider. Its  a no brainer really. Now the next important plan ….where too next as £200 will go a long way for our next family trip.


5 Things to Do With an Old Smartphone

Your old smartphone still works, but you’ve just upgraded to a new and faster model.  Now, you’re wondering what you can do with your old phone.

Instead of throwing it away, why not try these 5 things?

Help Mother Earth By Recycling

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Whatever you do with your old cellphone, don’t throw it in the dumpster. You won’t be contributing to a greener environment and a safer one for the future generation.  It doesn’t take much to properly recycle your old gadget. For instance, you can hand it over to the nearest recycling center so they can take it apart, reuse it or harvest for individual components. Or, you can take it to a recycling programme that gives you in-store credit, gift cards or cash by turning old branded tech.  It’s certainly better than having your old gadget end up in the landfill and pollute the earth by leaching toxins into the ground.

Help Organisations by Donating

A functioning phone that can make calls, send SMS or browse the web may still be useful to other people. Think about who or how you’d want to donate your gadget for a good cause.  It could be your local church, a goodwill centre, an animal shelter, library or hospital. The staff welcomes any serviceable tech they can use to do their jobs. The same goes for old laptops, tablets, computers, fax and printers.  You can also give it to your co-worker, neighbour or favourite relative the next time you meet. Make sure to gather the cable, charger and any accessory so they can fully enjoy the gift.

Re-Use Your Phone As A Backup

Find your old phone’s charging cable and power it up. Activate the cellular network so you can start making calls or sending messages with it. When it’s full, put it in a sturdy case and somewhere easily accessible, e.g., in your locker, car or bag. You’ll be safer knowing that you’ll have a backup phone in case something happens to your main unit.

Turn Old Into New

Did you know that you can create an mp3 player, an eBook reader or maybe a portable TV with your old phone? Here are some fun projects you can try:

  • Portable TV. Install YouTube, a streaming app such as Netflix, Amazon Prime or Twitch and you have a dedicated video app for entertainment. If you have kids, load it up with their favorite cartoons and a video app so you’ll have something to distract them with.
  • Remote Control. Never lose a remote (and precious time) again when you turn your old tech into a remote. Search through the App Store or Play Store and download the corresponding remote for your Smart TV, Apple TV or Roku device.
  • Music Player. Get Google Music or iTunes and some of your favorite songs into a workout playlist. Attach a Bluetooth speaker or some wireless headphones and you’ll have a dedicated music player when you’re exercising at home or outside. You can also turn it into a static sound system by placing it on a charging dock and plugging in wired speakers.
  • eBook Reader. Do you love to read books? How about your partner or kids? You can turn your old tech into a storybook, a virtual magazine shelf or a library, depending on what you prefer. All you need is to download the Kindle app (or similar programs), magazines or eBooks and voila! A personal eBook reader. On the same note, if you prefer audiobooks, get the corresponding app and listen to podcasts or software that can read classic books aloud, for example.

Sell Your Gadget For Cash

Last but certainly not the least, you can turn your old mobile into quick cash by listing it up online. Popular sites such as Amazon, eBay and Facebook do have sections where users can advertise their secondhand items and sell them for money.  Simply upload a nice photo, details about the phone and its condition, then set a price. Wait for offers to come in, and when the price is right set up a meeting and you’ll have money to spend.

For easy and direct transactions, you can turn to online tech recyclers to sell your tech for money. Fill up an online form, send the item in and wait for them to receive it. You get fast cash and a straight appraisal right away.


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Our Favorite Places for Virtual Reality in Tukwila

It seems like you’ve been hearing about virtual reality for a long time, whether in the news or in sci-fi movies. Maybe it’s all your kids are talking about, or perhaps you’ve developed a curiosity about it yourself. It may surprise you that this technology has been around for a few decades, even though it didn’t become widespread and commercially available until just several years ago.

The first modern VR headset was invented in the late 1960s. Early VR projects were built out of scientific curiosity, or for practical purposes, such as training pilots. These projects were heavy and bulky. Plus, they weren’t available for the public to use, unless you happened to be invited into a scientific computer lab. Although technology advanced over the years, VR headsets as we know them today only entered the mainstream in 2017. So compared with other long-time favorite activities you’ve enjoyed at our Family Fun Center, VR seems pretty futuristic. But that’s what makes it exciting!

New technology is inspiring. Imagine what the future can bring.

VR Around the World

Indeed, many computer scientists and engineers all over the world are taking this technology to greater heights and creating cool new experiences for people that wouldn’t have been possible even five years ago.  In southern Australia, for example, a museum allows you to take virtual tours of nature. Slip on a pair of goggles, and you can go swimming along the Great Barrier Reef. You can even get up close with prehistoric animals. What child wouldn’t want to reach out and touch ancient ocean creatures?

At a Copenhagen theme park, guests have the option of getting fitted with VR headsets before riding a roller coaster. Instead of riding a “boring” old roller coaster, you can fly up and down hills, ducking from dragons and demons along the way. Talk about adding a few thrills to the ride!   In Beijing, a whole virtual reality theme park is being prototyped. What looks like an empty space when you’re standing in the room by yourself, suddenly turns into a place where you can battle monsters and travel through time once you put your headset on.

And video game companies are starting to come out with VR systems you can use right in your own living room. This can bring the whole family into the mix and give grandma and grandpa a chance to check out the technology at the same time as the grandkids.   Since it’s a new technology, home systems can be pretty expensive; they aren’t for every family on the block. Also, they aren’t as immersive as what you can find at entertainment centers, as the technology has been broken down to be more suitable for home use.

But don’t worry if Australia, Denmark, and China are too far away, or if you’re not in the market for VR in your own living room. We know where you can experience virtual reality in Tukwila for a fraction of the cost.

VR Challenge at the Family Fun Center

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At the Family Fun Center, we offer our VR Challenge attraction. Come play our newest Star Defense VR experience. Just put on the headset, and we’ll have you and your family protecting the universe against drones that are threatening to take over the earth.  When deciding to bring a virtual reality experience to you, we’ve gone with a system that will give you the best virtual experience possible. Why do we love our VR Challenge attraction so much?

It’s responsive, which makes you feel like you’re really a part of the action. Details like a vibrating motion floor system and responsive controllers help you feel like you’re somewhere else entirely.  It’s intelligent. The headsets and hand controllers we have in our VR experience are lightweight and wireless. The headset is easy to put on and wear. And you won’t get drawn out of the action by getting tangled up in wires, as you might have with older VR technology.

It’s also a benefit that our VR experience allows you to play in two ways: as an individual or along with other people. Our attraction allows for multi-player games so that you can work together with friends and family. Bring a whole group and experience it together!  We’re proud to offer state-of-the-art virtual reality in Tukwila. Be among the first in the Pacific Northwest to try it out! Note that you must be 52 inches or taller to enjoy the attraction.

6D XD Theater at the Family Fun Center

For those who don’t quite meet the height requirement, our 6D XD Theater is almost as immersive. You must be at least 44 inches tall to go on this attraction, and of course, teens and adults will also enjoy it.  Our XD Theater provides seats for up to 10 people, so your family and friends can have virtual adventures together.  Will you plunge into jungle river rapids only to find pirates along the way?  Will you have close-up encounters dinosaurs and try and escape from them?  Ride on a roller coaster, in a minecart, or fly with a jetpack?

Or try to rescue a baby rhino?

No matter which adventure you go on, you’ll be immersed in the action. The special seats in our theater move with the action of the film. You’ll also experience special effects like wind, lightning, and other weather. Surround sound tops off the immersion. It puts you into the action like no other movie you’ve seen.   We currently have eight different shows, meaning you can experience this attraction multiple times and never get bored. Even if you take in the same show multiple times, it’s never the same experience. You’ll be whisked off to a new land with new players, new ideas, and new choices. This is truly one family experience that never gets old.  The Family Fun Center is just one of our favorite places to easily experience virtual reality in Tukwila.

No matter whether you choose to experience our state-of-the-art VR Challenge here in Washington, or if you choose to travel the world and visit other innovative VR experiences currently offered, they will allow you to escape the everyday and go on fantastic adventures.

Where will you end up next?


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Building a Life around Helping Others: Learn How to Become a Professional Caregiver in 5 Steps

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Have you ever thought about becoming a caregiver? Do you have what it takes to be one? Caregiving is a rewarding profession, but it can be more challenging than anyone could have ever imagined. If you have never done it full time, you may be surprised at how challenging and exciting caregiving can be. You could be an excellent cook back at home and love to make meals for everyone in your family, but even so, that does not mean you are meant to be a chef. Becoming a caregiver will require preparation and knowledge in a variety of things. Here are some steps to consider when you are planning to become a professional caregiver.

  1. Consider What Motivates You

Before you can set your journey into this profession, you need to know why you want to become a caregiver. Do you have the traits and interest to make you successful in the job? If not, you need to consider a different profession.

  1. Ask for Feedback

Once you are confident that this is what you want to do, you can talk to a professional caregiver so you can learn about the money and time investment in education. You can also ask about the salary range and career trajectory. Additionally, you may consider volunteering at a reputable organization to get a sense of the working environment as well as the challenges and rewards.

  1. Explore the Options Available

If you are determined to be a professional caregiver, you can attend classes on caregiving to learn the basics. Consider starting as a companion through companies such as FreedomCare which offers caregiving support. You can also apply to work at a home care agency because a good number of these organizations offer training in this field. Moreover, you can look for organizations that offer seminars, workshops, and classes for those who want to become professionals in the field of caregiving.

  1. Get Training or Degree

While having a degree is not necessarily a requirement when you want to become a caregiver, training is imperative when you are looking for clients to work with. There are some colleges that offer training courses for those looking to become caregivers. Take a relatively fast course and get the certification you need to become a reputable service provider. You can search the internet for different courses in home health aide and nurse assistant training within your area of residence. If you decide to advance to a degree, you can pursue nursing, certified nursing assistant, or the licensed practical nurse.

  1. Determine Salary

Before you can decide to become a fully-fledged caregiver, make sure you are comfortable with the salaries offered. Salary payments usually vary with facility, location, and degree. When you want to make the most from this profession, you can search for jobs that allow you to work directly with a facility or family since you will not be working through an agency that charges a fee on your salary.

Final Word

The above are five steps you can consider when you want to become a professional caregiver. Commitment makes it possible to succeed in this profession. If you are not committed to what you do, it will be challenging to become the professional you want to be.


4 Sleeping Positions: Which One Is the Best for Your Health?


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You know that getting enough sound, quality sleep is a critically important aspect of your life. However, did you know that your sleeping position can either negatively or positively affect your health and the quality of your sleep? Whether you want it or not, sleep dictates how conscious, happy, positive, and products you might be during the day.

Getting at least one bad sleep can literally ruin your whole week, not only a day. Unfortunately, the majority of people fail to get enough sleep. Moreover, their sleeping position might not be the best one for their health. The way you sleep can drastically impact your well-being – both medically and psychologically. Generally, there are a few factors to consider before you go to bed: from frequency, length to depth and quality. What you’re more likely to ignore though is your sleeping positioning.

How often do you wake up in the morning with a backache, a cricked neck, and heartburn? Do you wake up feeling exhausted and sleepy or refreshed and alert? Multiple studies have shown that a sleeping position is usually to blame. Every one of us has our own preferred sleeping position, which helps us feel comfortable while we sleep. Although that position might feel natural, it might not be healthy. Check out four sleeping positions below and learn which one is the best for your health.

Sleeping on your side

One of the best sleeping positions, side sleeping is ideal for your digestion, particularly if you tend to sleep on the left side. Sleeping on the left side improves blood flow body-wide. The spine is still elongated in this sleeping position, and if you snore, it can reduce your snoring to the minimum. If you’re pregnant, your doctor will tell you that you should learn to sleep on your side, as it improves blood circulation to the fetus.

Side sleeping has its drawbacks, though. First of all, all that whole-night face smashing results in facial acne, fine lines, and premature wrinkles. If you suffer from acne and sleep on your side, ensure you change your pillowcase regularly and keep your hair clean. You can ward off fine lines and premature minimize wrinkles by sleeping on a pillowcase, which is e made of smooth material, such as satin or silk to decrease friction. 

Side sleepers typically don’t have trouble falling asleep. Sleeping on the side isn’t recommended for women with large breasts, too. Side sleepers should sleep on a thick pillow to fill the space above the shoulder and support the neck and head in a neutral position.

Sleeping on your back

Sleeping on the back is considered to be the best position for reducing pressure on the spine and thus ease and prevent back pain. When you sleep on your back, it helps you to keep your back and neck relaxed and in a light alignment. Sleeping on your back can reduce the likelihood of breakouts and acne as well as premature wrinkles and fine lines, as your face doesn’t touch your pillow. 

Women with big breasts can reap the benefits of back sleeping, too. This sleeping position supports the breasts and wards of their sagging. The bad news for snorers, though. If you snore, it’s best to avoid sleeping on your back. Consider the side sleeping position, instead.

Sleeping in the fetal position

With an estimated 41 per cent of people sleeping in the fetal position, it’s also one of the most popular positions for sleep. This is when you sleep on your side with your knees bent and your torso hunched. The fetal position is recommended for pregnant women and snorers. This sleeping position enhances blood flow in the mother’s body and the fetus, preventing the uterus from putting pressure on the liver that’s located on the right side. Sleeping in the fetal position has its drawbacks, too. For instance, if you sleep tightly curled up, it can negatively affect your breathing in the diaphragm. If you suffer from arthritis in your back or joints, sleeping in the fetal position can make you feel a little sore when you wake up in the morning. 

Rather than pull your knees up high and tuck the chin into the chest, straighten out your body as frequent as you can during the night. Or, place a pillow between your knees to relieve strain on the hips. Moreover, make sure you sleep on a plump pillow to support your neck and head.

Sleeping on your stomach


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The most comfortable sleeping position for a great number of people, stomach sleeping is actually the worst way to enjoy your sleep. However, this position aids in preventing snoring. In case you suffer from a dangerous condition like sleep apnea, sleeping on your stomach might be good for you. In general, stomach sleeping is bad for your neck, back, breasts, and face.  

Sleeping on your belly each night can result in nerve irritation in the neck, especially if you sleep on a thick pillow with your neck being at a sharp angle. Over time, this habit will lead to chronic neck pain, numbness, and tingling. If you have trouble falling asleep and any other sleeping position except a stomach one make you feel comfortable, consider sleeping on a natural latex mattress and a stomach sleep pillowYou need to get the whole-body support to ease pressure on your body and prevent the pain triggered by stomach sleeping.

Despite the fact that it’s impossible to change the sleeping position, it’s still possible to do it. Consider gradually including the first three sleeping positions in your pre-sleep time. You might feel uncomfortable at first, but don’t give up. Allow your body to adjust to those positions. There are also a lot of devices and pillows and mattresses that help to learn how to sleep correctly. If you still can’t teach yourself to sleep in a healthy position, use pillows to reduce the negative effect of bad sleeping positions.



Getting the Spice Back into Your Relationship

Having kids is one of life’s best gifts. But let’s face it, the presence of small people can play havoc with your romantic life. Whether it’s lack of sleep, lack of time, or lack of willingness, often couples suffer from a ‘love-life slump’ after having children.  The good news is that this can be turned around.

Why it matters

First of all, take comfort in the fact that this is normal. Commonplace, in fact! Plenty of couple go through the same thing, and most come out the other side unscathed. This is even the case when negative emotions are involved; for example, frustration or resentment.

However, while it may be common, it’s important not to ignore the matter. Romance and intimacy are what brought you together in the first place, so it’s vital to reignite those feelings, to ensure that your relationship becomes stronger than ever.

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Intimacy doesn’t always equal sex

If you’re suffering from a serious lack of libido (exhaustion and hormones can do that), accept that this is a stage you’re going through. Romance shouldn’t always focus on sex; it’s about forging a meaningful connection and enjoying one another’s company.

If you feel like this, it is a good idea to talk openly about it, though. Lack of communication can leave your partner feeling undesirable or unwanted, and they could probably do with some reassurance.

How to get the va-va-voom back

There are a variety of ways you can inject some romance into your relationship. These include:

  • Spending an evening together (away from the kids). It’s good to have an evening that’s completely child-free. Do what you used to do together; whether that’s going to the cinema, watching a band play, or simply going down the pub. Take the time to dress up for it too; which includes splashing on your favourite scent (if you’ve run out, Copycat Fragrances for her have some inspired-by perfumes for a reasonable price).
  • Working on your self-confidence. If your self-confidence has taken a dip after having kids (Again, this is common), think about how you can feel good about yourself again. A new haircut might make you feel better, or if you’re concerned about your figure, take up a new form of exercise, like running or swimming. Let your partner know how you’re feeling too – they may be able to help.
  • Making life ‘fun’ again. Don’t spend all evening tidying the house or preparing the kids’ lunch boxes for the week. Those things can wait. Instead, pour yourself a glass of wine and chat to your partner. These little moments of reconnection make a big difference. 
  • Get physical. This could be anything; from holding hands while you’re out for a walk, to giving your partner a cuddle if they’ve had a rough day at work. Physical contact is a great way to feel connected to someone, even if it’s only a tiny touch on the arm or a pat on the back! Eye contact is also valuable.


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